I’ve always been fortunate enough to have a community. Family, friends at school, the ski school I grew up in, college, various jobs, etc. We kind of just fall into various communities without realizing it, or we realize it in hindsight when we miss it when we move on.
At some point, I decided I didn’t need a community. I think after college my “community” dispersed and I wasn’t sure where I belonged, so I told myself I didn’t need one. I wanted to “make it on my own” anyway. I thought if I needed a community, it meant that I wasn’t ok on my own, and that made me uncomfortable.
Community is so important. And being “ok” on your own and being a part of a community are not mutually exclusive. I like being alone, and I usually re-charge with alone time. But it’s the opposite that gives me life. On particularly hard days for whatever reason, it might seem like I want to just hole up in my room and not see anyone. And then I have to go to the grocery store, or to that meeting, or dinner with the friend I promised, and I find that’s when I’m whole; when I feel like I’m a part of something.
From the outside, it might seem like blogging is a lonely job. But it’s actually quite the opposite. I have found such a wonderful community in the world of blogging in Seattle. When I started, I didn’t know what I was doing, and I was so warmly welcomed into this group of people just trying to find their place in doing what they love. I don’t always feel like going to the events on a Tuesday night when it’s probably raining sideways, or writing that blog post, because is anybody really going to notice anyway? And then I get to that gathering after driving through a storm, or a write that blog post, and I see your likes and comments, and I remember why I’m doing this: to connect with people.
To my point…almost a year ago Sydney of Gossip & Glamour and Sydney Loves Fashion and Alix of Alix Rose got in touch with me through my blog to come to a networking event at the Four Seasons Hotel for afternoon champagne and lunch. I quickly RSVP’d “hell yes.” It is because of those two women that I have the blogging community I do today, and the many friendships that have come out of it.
This Saturday they are hosting Stylish in Seattle, a style summit for Seattle’s top fashion bloggers, and I am so proud and honored to be a part of it. From being on the advisory board to preparing to moderate my first panel, it’s been so fun seeing what these women can do. They work so hard, and they really understand the importance of cultivating quality relationships.
So, if you are like me and think you don’t need a community, or you don’t want one because you are just fine on your own. You can have both. They can co-exist. And you do need one.
I’m so excited to grow my community even more this weekend.